A Piece of Peace
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I have an odd relationship with a friend. I know she is my teacher, but the relationship really pushes the “Doesn’t she care about me?” button.
I put together emails I never sent (because it didn’t feel good), I wrote cards that never got mailed (because I was not at peace yet), and then I decided that all of that took a bunch of effort for sure. I had been searching for what to “do” to find peace.
Trying hard will never result in a miraculous outcome. A joyful answer will only come with taking actions that are consistent with the path of least resistance. So what I did was this: I went for a walk in the woods, petted my dog, watered my garden, ate some chocolate, and kissed my hubby. Then it came to me!
Since when is she the source of my joy? Since when does she dictate how love-able I am? Then (shock of shocks!), I realized all that was bothering me was that I miss her and love her—and that there is nothing to do.
Peace at last. I can’t wait till we talk.
We work so hard at coming up with answers. The Universe doesn’t need our help with making a Milky Way—so why do we think it needs our help with conjuring up a simple answer? It takes no effort to allow yourself to hear an answer and lots of effort to try to find one yourself.
If you have been asking, the Universe has been answering. The reason you are not seeing it perhaps is because you are too busy wondering and worrying to actually hear what you need to hear and see what you need to see. Allow the answer, experience the answer.
Jennifer Hough
Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work
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I was recently reminded that it isn’t until you really change your perspective that life will change, no matter how much positive thinking you do (or as I like to call it, “icing a mudpie”). It came to me the day after our Peace in Your Body Workshop. A couple of people had been frustrated because they had been trying so hard leap to another place when simply by making a small shift in thinking, the doors of possibility can open wide. All you have to do is open ‘em a crack first—and anyone can do that.
You cannot positive think something away. If it bothers you, then it bothers you. The first step to transcending it is to start to give it less energy. The point of your first step is to move your thoughts in the direction of feeling better, not to disguise the problem.
I recall a lovely woman who wanted to get rid of the diabetes she’d had for years. Most of us think that positive thinking (PT) is the key, but PT will only put happy thoughts on a frustrating situation. Instead, first she had to stop calling it “my diabetes” and start calling it “a sub-optimal blood sugar condition.” Soften the stuck statement with a softer statement that is still true.
Second, we talked about how there are people in the world who have reversed the condition. Then we chatted about how biochemistry is directly impacted and created by our underlying beliefs and discussed some of the beliefs that were not helping. In 5 minutes she felt better, and it’s been 5 months and her blood sugar is about 60% better.. This improvement came simply by moving the energy instead of positive thinking.
Instead of “icing a mudpie” today, simply see if you can find a true statement about your situation, one that just feels a little better. As soon as you do this, you are moving toward true resolution.
Jennifer Hough
Making Changes with Ease
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We are so funny about change, don’t you think? Normally when changes happen to relationships, jobs, career, or family, we run screaming in the opposite direction. Why? Because the brain tends toward peace. Change always results in an expanded capacity for joy for me. I bet if you look, it’s the same for you!
If you have been asking for new and improved life experiences, wouldn’t it make sense that your beliefs would have to change? So when the Universe presents change, you are getting closer. Respond to change like a moth to the light instead of like a fly to a fly swatter.
Consider that the purpose of life is to constantly be expanding in joy, fulfillment, and meaning. If this is true, that means life is actually designed to be in constant change. We think we want it to stay the same because then we can be in control.
But which of the following sounds like a more productive use of your life:
1. being in control
or
2. expanding joy
Now here’s the paradox: the thing we want to control when we are being controling is our level of peace and perceived safety. The funny thing is that if you want peace and safety, you have to make your life about finding joy—not about being in control. By definition, safety and peace are about grabbing your surfboard and letting the river take you in ways unimagined. That is being in the ultimate control.
Change = more joy
Today, seek the change that brings you more joy. The river is leading to expanding dreams, so you might as well jump in with an inner tube. (I’ll be the one on the neon pink inner tube!)
Assume that the Universe has your back. The alternative is stay in control—sounds tiring.
Jennifer Hough
Awakening Time is a Miracle, Too
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Things are moving so quickly these days that sometimes it takes a lot of work to keep up with the shifts and changes in both physical reality and the meta-physical advancements. It is not actually meant to be a lot of work. You might forget that it is not your job to micro-manage the Universe, it is your job to find peace in your mind every day and remember who you are. Everything else has been taken care of because you are just that loved.
Sometimes you are processing and sometimes you are in the zone. You see, when you are getting more and more in alignment with who you really are, your nervous system and cells have to re-pattern themselves. That takes energy and time. Be grateful for the shift and don’t take action until you feel complete, which will occur as a sense of peace.
I was recently blessed to have gone to a lovely spa where I did a speaking engagement with the guests. Wonderful connections were made. The expansive nature of the conversations both with the organizers and the guests, and the beautiful location could not help but expand joy, bring new awarenesses, and move energy. When that happens sometimes we feel amazing, open, and like all things are possible.
Then again, often it takes a few minutes, hours, or days for our cells and neuropathways to process/adapt to the further awakening. That can occur as down time, fatigue, lowered motivation. Don’t judge yourself for being there. Embrace it because you are awakening. We live in such a fast-paced world that often we get frustrated with lower energy or integration periods. But it is all in the grand design and integration time is just as important, miraculous, and meaningful as manifesting miracles. In fact, integrating massive cellular change is a miracle.
Jennifer Hough
Money: We’re So Weird About It!
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So what about money, honey? Well, to tell you the truth, I really don’t get too excited about it—because I truly believe that my abundance and prosperity are only partially related to money. Money was simply a human invention made to facilitate exchange, not a tool to measure your success, worth, or potential happiness.
I notice that when I feel love for others, appreciate my life, and count my blessings, I seem to have more money. That’s because I am reminding myself of the abundance that exists in my life. Many would say “Yes, but you have money.” Interesting… Read on!
I used to live on a sailboat that the bank owned, I was $15,000 in debt, did not have a relationship, nor a full time job, nor a job that I particularly enjoyed. I had two choices: to wallow, or to collect evidence for what was working in my life. I chose plan B.
I started to notice my loving friends at the marina, being surrounded by nature, that I have a place to sleep, at least two people who love me, a job, a mortgage payment. Abundance has nothing to do with how much money you have. And as long as you think it does, more will not come.
Success also has nothing to do with how much money you have. You see, if you separate success and abundance from money, that is an excellent first step.
Did you know that abundance is not conditional on how much money you have? It is a choice. Today, see how many ways you can collect evidence for your incredible abundance (while you’re at it, collect evidence for your success, worth, and potential too—why not?). If you have trouble with this, The Prosperity CD from www.thevitalyou.com is awesome for a wake-up call.
Jennifer Hough
Finding Peace
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I’ve been meeting with many people who are beating themselves up lately for spending too much time in the “why” of everything instead of getting on with life.
Here is an interesting thought: What if you don’t need to know why? What if you can simply create what you do want, write another movie ending, and if you need to know why, the Universe will send it to you in the process? At least that way you are having a good time while trusting that if you need to know, the answer to your previous struggles will be sent. If you don’t, it won’t.
Sometimes finding peace about a struggle does not require endlessly searching for why it is happening. Sometimes it just requires moving on and trusting that if it would be for your highest good to know, the answer will come. The “why’s” will come to you if you need them.
We in North America are addicted to knowing why. Remember, the answer to the question “why” does not get you a great life. It gets you a really good explanation for how come you are stuck. But that’s all.
Jennifer Hough
Beating Yourself and Others Up: Discernment vs. Judgment
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When making choices in life, it is important to discern rather than judge. Discernment originates from a yearning to figure out what is for your highest good and what is most joyful life; it’s from love. Judgment is making an observation and condemning based on fear. Judging another originates from your yearning to protect what you have and be safe, not to expand into your most miraculous self.
When you discern, you will find far more solutions to any problem because it leaves you open. Nobody is ever truly wrong. Think about it this way: The only way anyone can ever do anything they do is based on the experience and perceptions they have.
For example, I used to have the perspective that Eckhart Tolle wrote in a way that was hard for me to read. That is discernment. When I figured this out, I just got the audios, et voilà! I enjoyed that much better. Judgement would have been “Eckhart Tolle is a pretentious writer that uses language that does not speak to the masses.” Reading Tolle’s writing is not right for me, but listening to him is. But that does not make him wrong.
Make peace with the fact that it is perfectly fine to figure out what feels best to you. That doesn’t mean you are putting anyone else down (after all, if you thought that way, you would be judging yourself—and that kind of defeats the purpose).
Jennifer Hough
The Purpose of Life
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The purpose of life is joy—not getting things done, so that you can have joy when it’s over. We create goals and dreams only for the joy of the journey, not for the two hours of celebration at the end.
Have you ever been involved in something and put pressure on yourself to get it done? I occassionally fall into that trap, too. When I do, I remind myself that I chose the projects I am involved in for joy of the journey. And I don’t get an “A” in Heaven or a closer seat to God for getting them done.
Think about all the people you meet, connections by phone, drives through the backroads, and the children, pets, and flowers you pass by every day. Do you notice? I was once told that trees and plants are truly here solely for our benefit. Well how blessed are we?
Are you milking the journey for all it’s worth? Do you sing with your kids in the car? Do you acknowledge your garden when you walk out of your home? Do you stay present in your phone conversations with others, truly hearing where they are coming from? Have you danced with your spouse/lover lately?
There’s no prize to getting it all done—but then again, maybe there is! Getting it all done is nice. If at the end of life, you would like to declare that you “got it done,” then let me know how that goes. The alternative? When you do anything, find the meaning, beauty, interest, or joy in it. After all, why else would we do anything?
Jennifer Hough
Stress and Health
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We had a barbeque last night, which I totally enjoyed. I had been made aware of the thought from Oprah the other day that “charring food is carcinogenic.” It occurred to me that putting that fear in people simply makes it more real. Therefore, it is sort of like a self-fulfilling prophecy. (Don’t get me wrong, though; I do love Oprah!)
It’s interesting that we stress about what we eat—when stress is the #1 cause of disease, not what we eat. Stay in the present, love those around you, and appreciate your environment. If everything you did was an opportunity to count blessings, would your life be different?
If the path to health lies in your ability to create peace for yourself, then what more is there to talk about? Let’s get on the Path to Peace, shall we?
Nothing is worth your health, energy, and presence of mind—aside from a monster eating your loved ones unexpectedly, your house being steamrollered by a giant alien truck, or Oprah going off the air (these are all cause for serious concern). Otherwise, it’s all good.
Jennifer Hough
Why Oh Why?
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I’ve been meeting with many people who are beating themselves up lately for spending too much time in the “why” of everything instead of getting on with life. Here is an interesting thought: What if you don’t need to know why?
What if you can simply create what you do want, write another movie ending, and if you need to know why, the Universe will send it to you in the process? At least then you are having a good time while trusting that if you need to know, the answer to your previous struggles will be sent. If you don’t, it won’t.
Sometimes finding peace about a struggle does not require endlessly searching for why it is happening. Sometimes it just requires moving on and trusting that if it would be for your highest good to know, the answer will come.
We are addicted to knowing why in North America. Remember, the answer to the question “Why?” does not get you a great life. It gets you a really good explanation for how come you are stuck. But that’s all.
Jennifer Hough
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