Positive Attitudes
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The Chinese New Year arrived on Feb 17th 2007. Two weeks later, I happened to attend a seminar that discussed the Year of the Fire Boar (2007), and how it may affect various Chinese animal signs. I don’t follow Astrology - not the zodiac signs, and not the Chinese horoscope. However, I figured I would stay and listen to the renowned world expert since I was already in the room.
To my surprise - and delight - when I heard that my animal had a terrible year last year (Year of the Dog ? 2006), I was initially surprised since my year was actually pretty good. I wondered if the horoscope was wrong. However, upon further reflection, I realized that 2006 really was a trying year for me. There were significant set backs as well as unpleasant surprises. But why didn’t I consider it to be a probelm year for me? How come my memories of 2006 were good ones?
I realized that my positive way of thinking (by mentally converting ?negatives? into ?challenges? and ?creative projects?)helped make it a good year for me. Because I am open and willing to be guided by wisdom, any ?negative? events that came my way quickly became neutralized and instead I was able to enjoy many great rewards. Keeping a positive attitude helps me to continuously reap positive rewards.
SL
Say It Right
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One of my clients asked me to help her practice “convincing” her husband to join her at a self-improvement seminar. She was afraid to ask him outright for fear he might scoff at or trivialize her suggestion - because after all, he wasn’t as spiritually aware as she was. She was in such a pickle over how to “say it right” that she practiced over and over again - but she was never content with how the words came out.
I suggested she take a few deep breaths to calm her mind. I then asked her to repeat the following mantra to herself (out loud or under her breath): “I am a good person. I mean the best for my husband. I have the intention to help my husband.” Then I asked her to visualize a happy outcome from their conversation. I told her that as long as she holds a pure intention that their conversation will be a WIN-WIN for both of them and that the outcome will bring them closer and open up his world to better options in his life, then she has done her job.
I told her that no matter what the outcome (whether he ended up going to the seminar or not), she should never be afraid of to make a suggestion that involves helping another person. The only hiccup that can arise is when the person making the suggestion (in this case my client) has a self-serving need to see changes that may not necessarily benefit the other person (in this case her husband).
SL
The Secret
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My clients are asking me what I think about the DVD - “The Secret”. I think if you can pick up a copy, then by all means watch it. If you prefer to read the wisdom, then the book is great too. Your simple intention to improve upon yourself and the action you take to do so, are creating positive ?energy? and attracting your desires.
A useful piece of advice is to watch the DVD everyday for 30 days. You don’t need to watch the entire thing every single time. You can have the DVD playing in the background while you’re getting ready in the morning instead of turning on the radio or your morning TV shows. Make it your background noise. Play it while you’re having dinner - even if you’re in the other room. Be creative. By watching it every day, some part of the wisdom will enter and lodge into your psyche, and will reinforce itself into your mind. If you live with a family, then all the better because your entire family willl benefit from the background messages.
Try it for 30 days, and let me know what miracles you experience.
SL
Letting Go
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Today one of my clients made the following comment (with contentment), ?The more I let go the idea of needing to find my ideal mate - the more anxious men are to date me. Whereas before, when I felt a desperate need to date ? I was totally dissatisfied with the type of men I was dating.?
A light bulb had switched on for her and she allowed herself to experience the rewards of ?Giving up the need for control in her life in order to gain more satisfaction and (ironically) more control.?
Achieving Your Goals
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I am constantly asked to help my clients to achieve their goals, be it personal, career, health, spiritual, etc. Some don?t know how and where to begin; while others prefer to do the work together to expedite the process. One of the first things I do to help them achieve them is start them on ?Mantras?. Mantras are simple phrases that help to keep their minds focused. They can also help to remind them they are on the right path, even if they are having a challenging day.
One of my favorite mantras is: ?Stay focused, determined, and persistent?. Time and time again, I have seen success come to those who stay focused on their goals and act with determination no matter what obstacles they are faced with.
Time is on My Side
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A client of mine came into my office last week very upset. She felt overwhelmed by the number of tasks her boss was handing her lately and she was panicking because she didn?t feel like she could accomplish them in a timely matter. As her boss? expectations rose, her feelings of inadequacy did too.
After listening to her complaints, I felt she could really benefit from a couple of mantras. I recommended the following to her: “Time is on my side?; ?Time is my friend?; ?I always have more than enough time for all the things that I wish to do?; ?I am excellent at prioritizing.” I also suggested to her to take five deep breaths several times a day and especially when she felt any time-related anxiety coming on.
About a week later, she came back to my office and she looked like a different person. She commented on how repeating the mantras in her head several times a day, as well as doing deep breathing, gave her a new perspective. She found she was better able to prioritize her day and was surprised how she was able to get things done.
Jealousy: A Thing of the Past
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Your neighbor just bought a fancy new car but you?re still driving the same car you?ve had for the past 10 years; Your colleague is going on a 2 week vacation but you haven’t been able to afford a decent getaway for at least 4 years; Your best friend is a successful businessman, but you can?t seem to catch a break?
No matter how happy we may be for other people, it’s still hard not to keep that little feeling of jealousy or envy at bay.
So how do you cope with jealousy and envy?
Whenever my clients or I am confronted with such a situation, I always recommend the following:
In your mind, say the following: “Good for you and good for me too. Good for you that you?re doing so well. I?m thankful that my good fortune is already on its way so I too can enjoy many joyful moments just like you.”
Eventually, as you learn to say it often and at just the right times, you will genuinely begin to believe it in your heart and because your negative emotions are no longer there (or minimized), you will begin to attract joy, good fortune and/or whatever else you are trying to bring into your life.
The Power of Breathing Deeply
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One of the best things I can ever teach my clients is to how to breathe deeply. This simple, yet effective, technique helps my clients relax and enables them to become more focused.
Why does deep breathing work so well? Because it helps to put our minds in a more peaceful place - which then allows us to think more clearly. Once we are in a more relaxed state of mind are we able to open up our minds to a world of endless, positive possibilities.
