Say It Right
Filed Under Holistic Therapy |
One of my clients asked me to help her practice “convincing” her husband to join her at a self-improvement seminar. She was afraid to ask him outright for fear he might scoff at or trivialize her suggestion - because after all, he wasn’t as spiritually aware as she was. She was in such a pickle over how to “say it right” that she practiced over and over again - but she was never content with how the words came out.
I suggested she take a few deep breaths to calm her mind. I then asked her to repeat the following mantra to herself (out loud or under her breath): “I am a good person. I mean the best for my husband. I have the intention to help my husband.” Then I asked her to visualize a happy outcome from their conversation. I told her that as long as she holds a pure intention that their conversation will be a WIN-WIN for both of them and that the outcome will bring them closer and open up his world to better options in his life, then she has done her job.
I told her that no matter what the outcome (whether he ended up going to the seminar or not), she should never be afraid of to make a suggestion that involves helping another person. The only hiccup that can arise is when the person making the suggestion (in this case my client) has a self-serving need to see changes that may not necessarily benefit the other person (in this case her husband).
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